DNA & Family Finder Bangladesh
for free DNA kits for Bangladeshi families in search of their child(ren)
In 2017 a very old lady came to tell us her story: under pressure she brought her 7 year-old son to the babyhome of Terre des Hommes Netherlands for she had no food already for two days. After a bath and food she wanted to bring him back home again, but was not allowed. He was pulled away from her forcefully while she was pushed outside the premises. Despite continuous efforts she could not succeed to get her son back.
In the Netherlands we managed to trace back her son. His memories fitted seamlessly with the memories of his mother, without knowing eachothers stories. In this case we did not need a DNA test, it was clear that is was a match based on the facts and memories.
The reunion happened in januari 2018 and soon after the first reunion Maznu decided to re-emigrated to his family in Bangladesh.
Mujibor has searched already for many years. He could count on his memories, saying his mother was not dead as mentioned in his adoption papers. He remembers her bringing him to the babyhome and promised she would come back. Though all of a sudden he found himself in a completely strange environment in another country, Netherlands.
With his help Shapla Community could be established and develop all activities.
It is in 2017 that finally after a break through in searches, he could find his family. The reporter of the Dutch National Television News programm "Nieuwsuur" was accompanying him when this coincidently happened. More you can see in their broadcast #bestof2017.
There was a very old couple that were so desperately in search of their daughter Monowara. They were ill and health was deteriorating, so time was really pressing. Unfortunately we couldn't find a girl with matching name and age. Then all of a sudden there was a match in the Shapla DNA & Family Finder Project..... after some talk and factchecking, tthe case was finally cracked. It took us one year, but DNA here was really the missing link that solved the puzzle.
And how blessed she was to be able to meet her parents both still alive! Same for her son, the second generation, who was possibly even more interested in their roots.
To loose a child is your worst nightmare as a parent. Not knowing where it has gone and what happened. Even if the decision was made with full consent on giving up a child, mostly it is made under pressure (socially, culturally, economically, insecurely) or temporarily. The loss leaves a (silent) deep scar. It is the grieve we have seen that is the running engine behind our activities. It is for the Bangladeshi families we work. Directly and indirectly helping the adoptees. And extending towards other missing children.
One man came to us showing a letter: his sister and brother in the Netherlands wrote a letter to his mother telling about their lifes in the Netherlands. But his mother passed away and they had lost contact. He wanted so much to restore the contact. We managed to trace back the sister, but she was not waiting for the contact. Only after leaning more about the situation, in which her mother was the main character to have fought with dr. Preger for the rights of the birthparents who lost their children in 1978, she took the airplane to meet her brother in Bangladesh.